{PH Design Shop} Lovely and then Some

My Fabulous White Leather Tassel Keychain

Well friends… I found a new shop in Rice Village Houston that I just adore and just had to share. PH Design Shop is lovely, amusing, and studious all rolled into one. Around every corner you’ll find yourself picking up trinkets, reading the fine print, laughing to yourself, and then walking around again. They have a splendid selection of books, stationary, leather goods, gifts and more to peek your curiosity. The finds within these four walls, are not those you see anywhere else, PH Design Shop is truly a one of a kind. My brief stop heralded this lovely White Leather Tassel Key Chain, some humorous Cards and a great Past Times Book.

Next time you visit Rice Village, make a stop into Sweet Paris for a Crêpe and Cappuccino, then walk a few steps down to PH Design Shop, you will be intrigued.

XO- Emily Arnim

PS. My purse swallows things and this fab key chain is impossible to miss and even more fun to hold! I will never lose my keys again…

Take the Bull by the Horns: My New Stationary

Longhorn Stationary by Kelly Kay from Paper Lane

Well, this Kelly Kay Longhorn Stationary is not exactly what I thought I would have picked up for myself at Paper Lane in Katy the other day, but now it is in my hot little hands and I am totally digging it! I  definitely make purchases based on my emotions, so apparently the Longhorn resonated with me that day… Was I thinking about my Dad, about The Texas Diary or about our new farm and the longhorn I’ve always wanted?!? Who knows! Either way I am making progress on my overdue thank you list with these Texas Chic Notecards and I love them! Kelly Kay is sold at Neiman Marcus, The Horchow Collection, as well as online and store front retailers across the country if you can’t make it to Paper Lane in Katy. (Store Locator Here)

Not only do I love my new stationary, but it sure feels good to tackle my thank you note list- I am WAY overdue!

XO,

Emily Arnim

The Great Divide: Forget the Two Space Rule

Typing on Mac Keyboard with Beso Beso Ring

Today during my Publishing Class in Austin, Texas it was very interesting to find out the Two Space Rule Between Sentences is a rule of the past! I do know that in blogging I use a Single Space Between Sentences, but had no idea that this rule applied to formal writing and books as well. Thought I would pass this along and save you the extra tap when typing! I also found this article pretty insightful if you’d like to read more…

Truly yours,

Emily Arnim

Bring a Butler’s Advice Into Your Home

Well of course, the majority of households in the United States do not have a Household Butler, at least not where I come from. So as you can imagine, it was very interesting to read an article in the November 2011 Issue of Town & Country Magazine, “At Your Service”, which writes about an almost $16,000 Eight Week Study of Estate Management at the French Culinary Institute. Yes… I am for real (it is even hard to get entrance into this exclusive study)! I can only imagine the details and duties required by a family with several multi-million dollar properties, countless reasons to entertain and a schedule filled with managing businesses, properties, personal needs, travels and finances- I guess that is why you would need a butler, to be more efficient. Amongst my amazement of the aristocratic knowledge a butler possesses, I did learn a few things to incorporate into my lifestyle…

1. “Scouring pads are the devil! They ruin silver and leave scratches on plates and glasses.” -Chris Ely

2. Use a dry paint brush to dust picture frames.

3. If your clothes are too close together in your closet, they create more wrinkles and creases.

4. Dry clean a suit once a year, steam it and spot clean it as needed.

5. Hang your pants up by the bottoms or the cuff, folding them over a hanger creates creases. Hanging them up by the cuffs helps most of the wrinkles fall out.

6. Try WD-40 to remove a lipstick stain.

7. When setting a table the ideal space between plates is two feet from the center of one plate to the next. This will create the most comfortable eating environment.

8. When decorating the table with flowers (fragrance free only), put your elbow on the table and your fist upright in the air, the flowers should never go above your fist. If the flowers are above your fist, guests cannot see each other.

9. Never have candles at the table during daylight, in the evening use only fragrance free.

10. Be conscious of fingerprints on your glassware, remove them with a cloth or set them on the table with a towel. Always lift the glasses from the stem, and check for fingerprints in the daylight.

11. All of your silverware should be an equal distance apart when setting the table.

12. Never show up early to a party, the last 15 minutes are crucial for the host.

Of course, not all of these are day-to-day tips you can use in life, but chances are, something I’ve recounted here will be useful to you at some point. This type of column all goes back to my quote, “Enjoy The Suburban Diary as you wish, take everything with a grain of salt, remember what is necessary, and make everything YOUR own!”

Truly yours,

Emily

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Dinner Time: What Are We Teaching Our Children?

If you are a Parent, I am sure at some point you have said, “Stop talking and start eating.” It never fails, my Husband and I are the last ones to sit down at the table, and the first ones to get up. But are we teaching our kids the right thing, or the most convenient thing for our  busy lives? To eat and then escape the table? The more I think about it, of course not! I was not raised to rush from the table, and I have to remember the simple things that will go a long way in my children’s lives! The older your children get, the easier it is to practice simple dinner time traditions- but it is never to early to start trying…

I love this picture of my Grandparents, Mother, Aunt and Uncle in 1968, Mexico City- A sweet reminder to slow down and enjoy the memories! They pass by so fast…

“A crust eaten in peace is better than a banquet partaken in anxiety.” -Aesop

Here are my thoughts:

#1 The dinner table should be a place to reflect, discuss and be in one collective place together.

#2 We should appreciate the time together and enjoy the conversations, not fuel the rush of life.

#3 We should sit at the table until everyone is finished (set a time limit if necessary), and have relevant topics to discuss. Some of the worlds greatest ideas were imagined, and biggest problems solved, over a meal… Why should our family dinners be any different?

#4 Everyone should get their time on stage, take turns, learn not interrupt and learn to have civilized discussions.

#5 Everyone should ask as many questions as give answers.

In addition to the social skills and bonding we are teaching our kids- we are keeping them from scarfing down their food which is terrible for your health! What do you think? I think it will take a conscious effort to slow down, take more time, instill confidence and build social skills in your children that will last them a lifetime! Decide what is important to your family and establish dinner time traditions. After I wrote this post- I came across this article: The Benefits of Eating Together.

Enjoy the Moments, it isn’t like this Forever and it is never too late to start!

Truly yours – Emily

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Simple Name Tag Etiquette- File This!

At some point in our lives we’ve all worn a name tag. I recently discovered what side it should be worn on- and I didn’t even know there was a side!! Whether you are at a business function, church, an event or your child’s school… There is always a time when you will- and should know- this cardinal rule of Name Tag Etiquette!

I thought about writing this post yesterday when I was attending a luncheon, and here we are today…

A name tag should always be worn on your right side… Although it is easier for a right-handed person to place a name tag on their left side… Think twice!! Shake with your right hand, put name tag on your right side, so it is easier for the person shaking your hand to make contact with your name, be reminded of your name and make eye contact with you!

Ultimately we should be proud of our names, we should want to be identified by our faces and our names together, and we want people to remember us. This is also a comfort measure for the other person when they draw a blank trying to remember what your name is. We don’t want to make the awkward stare to your name tag on the left side- it would be obvious- so wear it on your right side friends!

What’s in a Name Suburban Diary Friends?

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Gentleman Code: Entry #2 A Lady and Stairs

“A crust eaten in peace is better than a banquet partaken in anxiety.” -Aesop

Alright Gentlemen, Sons, Husbands, Brothers… Time to step up your game and brush up on your Gentleman Code- these are classic manners to apply to modern time!

Welcome to a new series on The Suburban Diary. You may read my posts on your own or have them sent to you by a special Lady in your life! No matter how you come about it… Knowledge is Power! And Women… If your Gentlemen won’t read this, then just read it to them!

Scenario: You are with your Mom, Wife, Girlfriend, Friend or other Lady and you need to go down the stairs or escalator… Who should go first?

Gentleman Code: This is an exception to “ladies first”, you should stand in front of her in case of a slip- you will be her hero for being there to catch her! So Ladies First unless you are going down stairs or an escalator!

You will use this rule at the airport, the mall, office buildings and more- you will be thought of with respect when you follow this Gentleman Code!

Did you miss Gentleman Code Entry #1? Read it here!

Be There Gentlemen!

 

Gentleman Code: Entry #1 Table Manners

“A crust eaten in peace is better than a banquet partaken in anxiety.” -Aesop

Ray’s Grill in Fulshear, Texas

Alright Gentlemen, Sons, Husbands, Brothers… Time to step up your game and brush up on your Gentleman Code. Welcome to a new series on The Suburban Diary. You may read my posts on your own or have them sent to you by a special Lady in your life! No matter how you come about it… Knowledge is Power! And Women… If your Gentlemen won’t read this, then just read it to them! ;)

Greg & I at our Dinner Party at Ray’s Grill in Fulshear, Texas.

Scenario: You are at dinner, take a big bite of food and someone asks you a question. What should you do?

Gentleman Code: Never acceptable to answer the question with food in your mouth. Finish and then answer, PLEASE!

Answer in Confidence Gentleman!

Keep Your Whispers and Secrets to Yourselves (Beverly Hills Housewives)!

I made an observation last night while watching The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills and I thought to myself, this is the perfect topic to share. I had to get it off my chest while the episode was fresh in my mind. The episode before Kyle and Kim did the exact same thing- whispering back and forth! Not only should we, as adults, follow this rule of etiquette and common courtesy, but also instill this in our children. Quite possibly it could save them the trouble that follows this action. We must all make a conscious effort to Keep Our Whispers and Secrets to Ourselves. And you classically trained (and some not) Beverly Hills socialites should know better… Mean girls are not Ladies! I know we are all guilty of doing this at some point, but it really isn’t acceptable.

“Whoever gossips to you will gossip about you.” -Spanish Proverb

Now to be honest, I’m not sure if I have been a perpetrator or a victim more of a secret!?!? I am talking about being in a situation where you are clearly telling a secret in public or someone is telling a secret in front of you! I just don’t think I’ve done this very often and if I have, I was out of line… I am not the girl who cries victim, and we all know they are out there… I am the one that keeps calm and carries on or waits until an appropriate time vent- which is never in public. At any rate, here are my own personal guidelines on the issue…

“There is so much good in the worst of us, And so much bad in the best of us, That it hardly becomes any of us, To talk about the rest of us.” -Edward Wallis Hoch

It is never okay to whisper… If you are at a dinner table (or cafeteria table kids), you can have a conversation with your neighbor without being loud, but chances are if you have to be discreet about your conversation, it probably is not the time or the place. Personally, I do not want to be perceived as someone who could be talking about someone… If someone thinks you’re gossiping or whispering for a reason, even if it isn’t about them, they will certainly doubt your character. If you are casually mingling at a party, walk to another area if you must have a private conversation, do not cup your hand or whisper in someone’s ear! Come on ladies and “young ladies”….

This is a fundamental rule of etiquette on being a lady. Being lady-like is an Art, an Honor and a Skill you build on the older you get. Practice makes perfect. Being a lady is really a simple task, it requires conscious thinking though, in order to form lady-like habits!

“A lady knows that beauty can fade and wealth can leave her, but her character is the lasting market by which others will judge her… Being called a lady is perhaps the highest compliment a woman can receive.” – Candace Simpson-Giles

Luck Be a Lady Suburban Diary Friends!

Expert Advice: GiGi’s Graces… Now Which Plate is Mine??

Well we’ve all been in a situation at a table where we have accidentally picked up the wrong glass or plate right? Sometimes it goes unnoticed, but many times there is probably someone on a hunt for their plate, because someone else has taken it! Here GiGi Lewis gives us the answer to a common blunder at a lunch or dinner table!

Question: When at a business luncheon, I always confuse which is my bread and butter plate. It is awkward when I use the wrong one, and someone has to let me know I am using his or her plate. Is there an easy way to remember? -Alaine B., Girl Scout Office, San Francisco, California.

Answer: There absolutely is. Make an “ok” sign with your left hand and notice that it makes a lowercase “b”. “B” stands for bread. That is the proper side for your bread and butter plate!

Footnote: The right hand makes a “d”. “D” stands for drink. That is the proper side to keep your drink on whether you are right or left-handed. If you put your drink on the left side, it may confuse your server, and you might end up with someone else’s beverage (or someone may drink from yours).

GiGi Lewis is the founder of Club Etiquette in Houston. She teaches children, adults and corporate teams the ins and outs of etiquette!

Art Show Etiquette- What I Need To Know

Well I have to say that I have NEVER attended an Art Show and now I have the upcoming artistic debut of my cousin, Susan McWilliams. So I guess I should know exactly what to do and how to practice “art show etiquette” for her fabulous event… Thought I would share what I have learned as I did some research today!!

What to Wear: Susan’s art is sophisticated and modern, not Boho, so I am thinking it is best to dress like I am going to cocktail party. Men will be in suits and slacks, I would hope not jeans, although it is possible to dress jeans up with a sports coat and nice shirt!

Eating and Drinking: Eat before, you definitely don’t want to drink on an empty stomach and make a spectacle of yourself. Also it would be in poor taste to head straight to the food and bar!

Conversation: Always try to make your way to the artist to introduce yourself and your date, say a few short words, do not engage in a lengthy conversation, pay a compliment or have a question ready. If you want to commission the artist for a private sale, give them your business card and expect a call after the show to make an appointment. Conversations with other guests should be about art, culture and events not about your problems! Keep the vibe creative and positive! Keep negative thoughts out of the environment!

Purchasing a Piece: Buying art from an emerging artist is an investment, if it you don’t see it that way, you probably are not at the right place. You can attend the show to support the artist or if you plan to invest in a piece for yourself or a client (from what I’ve read, the prices are firm and not negotiable so don’t haggle). You in no way have an obligation to buy if you attend a show, but the artist appreciates the presence of caring patrons!

Keep Your Hands to Yourself: Please do not touch the artwork… Especially when drinking!! If you damage a piece it is likely that you will be responsible!

Socialize not Sell: This is a great to socialize and network with a well-connected crowd, but now is not the time to sell your service or products!

Art is Haute Suburban Diary Friends! I cannot wait to invest in my first piece!

Expert Advice: Gigi’s Graces… What Your Napkin Says About You!

What does your napkin say about you? Have you been following the rules all along? Refine and Refresh your table manners with Gigi’s Graces! Thank you Gigi for this wonderful advice… We should all store this in our Etiquette Bank- these are a Must-Have. I used so many of the tips I learned at my etiquette dinner while dining at 5115 last night!

Gigi Lewis is the Ambassador of Etiquette, she is a coach to Executives, Children, Socialites, Professionals and everyone in between! I love her and highly recommend you brush up on your skills with a personal coaching session, event or party at some point in your life… More details to come!

Question: When I leave the table where should I place my napkin?

Answer: Many people do not realize that the napkin serves more of a purpose than keeping our laps and faces clean. It serves as a signal in more formal settings. If you place your napkin on the seat, back or armrest of the chair when temporarily leaving the table, it is a signal to the server not to take your plate away.

Question: When I leave the table for good where should I place my napkin?

Answer: Loosely folded or crumpled on the left or right side of your plate signifies that you have completed your last course. It is never appropriate to place your napkin in your plate. It is also helpful to realize that severs at casual restaurants are not required to know these signals.

Bon Appetit!

I just love these tidbits of information… If we collect information, store it and practice it, I believe we will all be more confident when sitting at a table! Remember these things, practice them at home and teach them to your children!

Manners Matter Suburban Diary Friends! I am a Southern Girl after all!

Dining Etiquette: 3 Tips for You

I recently hosted an etiquette dinner party for some of my girlfriends and it was a complete success!  Gigi Lewis, founding director of Club Etiquette in Houston, gave us so many wonderful tips which we will carry forward in our dining experiences.

Here are 3 tips I will share…

1. Hold red wine from the goblet when drinking and white wine from the stem of the glass, oh how lovely it looks.

2. Make a “b” with your left hand and a “d” with your right hand, your Bread plate is always on the left and Drinks always on the right.  Do not be the one at a seated dinner that takes someone else’s bread plate or glass.

3. Always move the spoon away from you when placing soup into your spoon, not towards you, then bring the soup to your mouth.

The quest for good etiquette will not stop here, I will continue to brush up on my practices.  I highly recommend taking etiquette lessons at some point in your life… Valuable knowledge for dinner parties, weddings, galas, and when seated at dinner with those of influence. You never know who is judging you while you eat… Sad, but true!

Food for thought: Here are some conversation rules for dinner parties via an article in the New York Times.  Very entertaining!

Bon Appétit!

XO- Emily Arnim